I want you to visualise something for me – imagine you’re driving your car down the road, you close your eyes and let go of the steering wheel. What would happen? Within a few seconds you’re probably going to crash. You might cause someone, probably yourself, serious injury. You’d never intentionally do this, would you?
Well unfortunately, this is how a lot of people are going through life. They’re not taking care of their car, their car being their life. They’re not guiding it, they’re not even driving it really. They’re allowing other people to take total control over what they’re doing, whether intentionally or not.
Today I want you to start focusing on taking control of what you’re doing. First, you need to figure out where you’re trying to go. There’s no point in driving the car if you’re not trying to get somewhere. If you’re just aimlessly bouncing through life, then it’s time to channel your energy into figuring out what you want to do with your life, where you want to go. It doesn’t even have to be something major, it’s simply about having something to drive towards.
Always ensure that you have control over that car and that you’re the one who’s making the turns you want to make. You’re braking when you need to brake, accelerating when you need to accelerate, rather than allowing someone else to control what you’re doing. It might be your kids, parents, colleagues, boss, partner, anybody! If it’s not you who’s in control, then you’re never going to get the life you truly want.
About five years ago I sat down and wrote out ‘my perfect day.’ This included all of the things I pictured when I visualised the perfect day in my life. As I was going through some boxes the other day, I found that paper. Now, not every single thing was identical (for example, I thought my unborn child at the time was going to be a boy and she is of course, a girl!) but a lot of the things on that list are what I am doing now. I’m not saying I’m always in control, sometimes I even left go on the steering wheel myself, but the key is that I always bring myself back. If this happens, I always make sure to take that control over again and continue driving myself in the direction I want to be going.
If you don’t feel like you’re where you want to be, try taking stock of who’s driving your car. It might even be more than one person, maybe a few people are taking turns driving, but I can guarantee they won’t be driving you where you want to be. Only you truly know where you want to go and only you can steer yourself to that end, that destination, that ultimate goal.
So think about day to day, month to month, year to year, who is it that’s in control of your car? Once you’ve identified it, work on taking ownership back. No one is going to hand the wheel back to you, it’s up to you to take responsibility and ownership of that car, your life, and drive it where you want to go.