The final nemesis in this series is one we encounter on a daily basis, one that often knocks our confidence and leaves us feeling down about our own lives. The worst part of this one is, it’s often someone we don’t even know…
This is something we see first-hand in the private Facebook group we have for our members. We’ll often post testimonials or progress photos highlighting people’s achievements, which is great, but it can have a negative impact as well. These posts can sometimes result in other people thinking things like: “well I didn’t achieve that, so I’m not good enough.”
However it’s important to remember that you can’t measure your progress against someone else’s progress – it’s pointless. Yes, someone might have dropped 3 inches from their waist quite quickly, but maybe they were bigger than you from the start so they had more to lose.
Alternatively, maybe they have a completely different nutritional history than you. Let’s say you were a hard core dieter for years and maybe your metabolism isn’t working as sufficiently as it could. However, their metabolism is just fine, so the weight naturally shifts quicker for them. Or maybe they’re just genetically predisposed to losing weight quicker. Whatever their situation, it’s unfair on you (and them really) to compare your progress.
It’s not just measurements that cause these feelings of “not good enough” either. It’s the selfies and lifestyle pictures with captions about how amazing everything in that person’s life is. I know people who have completely chaotic lives, full of stress, who are posting things like this. It might make them feel better to misrepresent their lives on social media, but it’s important for you to see that it’s not something worth feeling inferior about. From today, try not to get wrapped up in measuring your self-worth or success against someone else’s solely from what they’re posting online, because a lot of it could be completely false.
Your main focus should be solely on what you’re doing. It doesn’t matter what anyone else is doing, you have to stay true to yourself. There are too many variables when we start comparing our lives to other people’s lives. Take a look at own situation, ask yourself what could be made better? What can you do today to make your situation better?
Do you feel like you’re not clever enough? Okay, pick up some books. Not slim enough? Get some help with your nutrition. Not fit enough? Start exercising. All of these are things you can do right now to make positive changes to your life.
In fact, make a list of the things you don’t like about your life, send it to me and I will give you a list of things you can do to turn it around. It’s as easy as that, you’ve just got to make a plan and start doing it.
Your life is your life, focus on being the best that you can be day in and day out. Can you be better than you were yesterday? And was yesterday better than the day before? Good, keep doing that.