The next potential nemesis that can interfere with us becoming our best selves is the person who’s supposed to be there for us through thick and thin, though that’s not always the case…
Maybe you don’t even have a partner at the moment or maybe your partner is actually amazing (hopefully they are!), but for some of us our partner can be the worst person when it comes to support.
I love to hear stories of couples at Prime Mover who start their healthy journeys together, train side by side, and prepare their healthy meals as one. It makes the whole process so much easier to have someone along for the ride with you.
On the flip side, when I hear stories about someone who’s struggling to stick to their nutrition despite all their best efforts, because their partner won’t stop ordering pizza. I can’t help but feel that the partner should be more supportive of their efforts to implement healthy lifestyle changes.
Now this might sound extreme, but in these cases you may find that you’ve actually outgrown your partner. Maybe you’ve been together for a long time, but in recent years you’ve gone down different paths and find that you’re no longer on the same page. In these situations, the first course of action should be to try and rectify the situation. Open up to your partner about how you’re feeling and share the things you would like to be sort out so you can try and work on them together.
Don’t let your partner ruin your chances at living a full life, your partner should enhance your life. You should be a team, always focusing on building each other up. If that’s not happening and you’re unable to rectify things, then as harsh as this may sound, it might be time to ask yourself if your relationship with this person is what you truly want.
Take business partners for example, if you had a business partner who’s coming in late, tossing it off, spending company money, and making poor decisions – you wouldn’t stay with that partner, would you? Your life is far more important than any business, yet so many of us put up with these things in a partnership.
Hopefully you’re in a loving, dedicated relationship and everything is smooth sailing. But if you’re not, then I encourage you to look the situation and see what course of action will make you happiest. Now keep in mind, I’m not telling you to go out and separate from your partners right away, but do reflect on the situation you’re in and what needs to be done.
Try to visualise your future – 5, 10 years down the line, where is the road you’re on? Where do you want to be? Take a moment to consider how what you’re doing today will affect your future. Don’t think for a second that you need to settle, because no one should have to settle. You are more than that and it’s time to do what’s best for you!